No matter who you are your life has expectations built around it, expectations that others have of you that are not necessarily your own as well as expectations that you have of yourself. With all that is expected of us it is far too easy to get caught up in a whirlwind of trying to figure out which expectations we need to meet at any given moment. The number one expectation that I personally feel a need to fulfill is perfection. The need to be perfect comes from my being broken and my need to feel successful in all that I do. I would not view myself as someone who needs praise or a lot of encouragement, but under the surface that is really what I long for. This is a self-destructive attitude and one that God has been working out in me for a while. If you are not a “control freak” or “perfectionist” or whatever title you may associate with this then you do not know the exact weight that this puts on one’s life, but I guarantee that you do know some other feeling if not this exact one based on expectations that you have in your own life. Our lives are wrapped around expectations and if we don’t recognize what those expectations are then they can easily become idols in our life.
I have already stated that perfectionism is something that I struggle with and hopefully by now you have identified at least one of yours. We all have expectations that need to be crushed. Crushed in a manner that they are no more, not in a manner that we exceeded expectations and blew them out of the water. The expectations of this world are damning and damaging. They take our eyes off of Jesus who showed us how to act. He was not worried about impressing the Pharisees with His knowledge or abilities. He could have at any given moment done a miracle that was irrefutable by them and shown who he really was, but He didn’t. Instead Jesus humbled himself, just as we are supposed to do and I don’t mean that He made Himself weak either. This is another topic all together, but Jesus never made himself less than he was. He was not scared to stand up for what was right, but He did it with humility rather than arrogance because He understood that He was sent to be a light to shine on the world in order to reveal the darkness in it.
For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth) and find out what pleases the Lord. have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. It is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. But everything exposed by the light becomes visible–and everything that is illuminated becomes a light. This is why it is said: “Wake up, sleeper, rise from the dead, and Christ will shine on you.”
Be very careful, then how you live–not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is. Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit, speaking to one another with psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit. Sing and make music from your heart to the Lord, always giving thanks to God the Father for everything , in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.
If you haven’t yet identified what expectations you have in your own life then why not take a moment and do that now? We have all got different expectations on our life that do not belong to us and we must learn to shed them off and to be real about who we really are and what we are feeling. It is when we take a good look at who we really are on the inside that we are able to grow stronger in Christ. We are all fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14) and we must not be afraid of who we are. God made you with your strengths and weaknesses, so learn from your weaknesses and let them bring glory to God.